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Looking at Self Esteem from a Different Angle

  Sunday’s sermon I gave was less a talk about the idea of God and more an experience of connecting directly with The Presence. The congregation’s response was lively and hugs were generously flowing as I left the building. In the direct heat of a 100 degree plus morning I was met by an older, stunningly beautiful woman standing next to my car in tears. “I have prayed for thirty years”, she said, “to meet you.” She continued saying she had actively prayed for three decades to see the vitality of God in someone’s eyes and today was the day and my eyes were the eyes. Flattered and humbled simultaneously, I listened to her story. Partway through it she said, “like everyone else, I have problems with self esteem.” I have taken to seeing the world and listening to people talk much like reading a good college textbook. I begin to see and hear some things as though nuggets of wisdom and insight are flying off the page requiring a...

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If All is God…Then Why Beat Ourselves Up for How We Feel?

After my morning meditation, I turned on my computer to go through my emails. I found a blog I subscribe to where the writer felt much relief by admitting her relationship with her husband wasn’t going that well. She said the more friends she told, the more relief she felt and the more relief her friends experienced by admitting that marriage isn’t always perfect. I was struck by my perception that our culture does everything and anything, overall, to make certain emotions of ours unacceptable and wrong. Spiritual teachings tend to also do this. Many spiritual teachers suggest reaching for a higher emotion, as though the one we’re in is not holy. Others suggest certain emotions are not real, or are not of God. The small ‘t’ truth is the transitory nature of our being. As spiritual beings we are mind, emotions, body, and Spirit. Every intuitive teacher I have spoken with says they embraced all of their emotional registry as a way to access their intuition. Recovering addicts...

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Sophy Burnham on Connecting with Our Intuitive Selves

The October 3rd post “Where has the Divine shown Itself to You Today?” was inspired by my phone conversation with author and mystic Sophy Burnham.  The two of us engaged in an hour-long conversation about the spiritual journey and intuition.  I wanted to know how intuition hooked up with emotions and how an I could cultivate a stronger intuitive knowing. “Intuition” Sophy says, “is really developed through empathy.”  “Empathy, however, is developed through knowing your own emotional self so you can see the emotional expressions in others.”  The right side of the brain, which hosts creativity, does not utilize language like the left side of the brain does.  Information comes through the right side through feelings and pictures.  Our left brain isn’t developed until we are five years old when reason and rationalization become developed.  In our culture, we tend to, then, value the left side of the brain and close down the access to our right side.  Both sides are necessary, and equally valuable.  When an individual is...

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The Impact of Trauma on the Emotions with Kim Lipsman

“Trauma, I would define, is the inability to stay in the present.”  Kim Lipsman Emotions are wonderful nuggets of energy which rise up in response to an idea, thought, perception, or reaction.  If, however, you are traumatized, these nuggets may proceed thought and/or direct it.  Even more likely, is the chance you are separated from thought. During my two years of solitude I worked with Kim, above, to restore my emotional self to a place of balance and trustworthiness.  I relearned the  nuances of emotion and came to fall in love, once again, with the miracle of self expression through emoting.  I allowed myself to write poetry, paint and wallow in emotional states not from a place of judgment, but from a place of gratitude. When is the last time you gave thanks for your ability to become angry, disgruntled, happy, frustrated or giddy?  It is a wonderful practice.  Catch an emotion rising up from within, name it and then with delight say “I love this feeling.”  This freedom...

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