Let’s Talk Money
I remember the first time I heard a minister talk about money as a spiritual manifestation of God in form. I was shocked. I was raised to NOT talk about money and now I am hearing that it’s Holy? It is actually Divine Energy meant for Good? For years I practiced meditating on God/Energy/Spirit being ALL that is; a mystical Truth taught in all major world religions. By default then, everything visible and invisible is of Spirit. This includes money.
Early in my spiritual advising career I had women coming to me interested in learning how to be with and do money. I told them that men have many, many, many generations of being the financial provider for their household. It is baked into their unconscious programming. In most families, certainly white families in the 1980s, we are the first generation of women actively working and financially contributing to or financially supporting a family. And, overall, on less money than a man. In 1982 women earned sixty two cents to every male dollar and now it’s eighty two cents.
I coached women to open up to the Abundance of the Universe and connect to Divine Presence experiencing it within and as money. Then I highly recommended they learn everything they could about how money works, how to invest, and to grow finances from the mental perspective. We are, afterall, multi-dimensional beings. So as I drove to summer camp this past week and heard Tori Dunlap, author of Financial Feminist speak to the female disadvantages and cultural manipulation around money I couldn’t buy her book fast enough. I’m only a quarter of the way through it, so I have quite a ways to go, yet I’m having insights. I will share a few paragraphs with you:
“Beginning in childhood, boys are typically given toys that teach innovation, creativity, and self-reliance — things like Legos and trucks, things to build and create. Annd what are girls given? Dolls. Easy-Bake Ovens. Bridal veils. Before we can even speak, we’re told that our value to society is not our own ingenuity but rather how we can serve and belong to others. A literal child is given another “child” to caretake.”
“When your poor or financially stressed, the words “money can’t buy you happiness “is the most gaslight-y thing someone can say. Just as our finances are affected by our emotions, so are our emotions affected by our finances.
Studies about our brains “on poverty “show that lack of resources negatively affect our cognition, stress levels, and decision-making. Recently, a landmark study, even suggested that giving poor mothers a cash stipend during the first year of their babies lives literally improves their children’s cognitive development. And we know from research that higher incomes are correlated with higher well-being. So when someone says, “well money can’t buy you happiness,” you think, wanna bet? Because not only does money provide you with your basic human needs such as safety and healthy food, but also it gives you the ability to rest, to nourish your body in mind, and to leave bad situations. Money can buy stability and choice, and that is happiness.”
Tori lays the groundwork with cultural information and then she provides solutions and strategies. As I read this book I send out love to all of the women in the world who are finding their way. Now, of course, men are too, yet this book is geared toward us females and so I flood the Field with Love. Each of us is so deeply Loved AND Love Itself that to invite in financial well-being is a form of self-care. I would love to be alive long enough to see equal rights and equal pay for women. In the meantime, I do the work in Consciousness and trust it unfolds in right timing.
Today I take a moment to remember how blessed I am, and each of us are to be alive in this moment. Statistically it is a miracle that any one of us is here and to have kept going and growing is really worth appreciating.
One of my coach friends loves to say “God loves you with money.” Dr. John DeMartini says, “I can’t help it. No matter what I do, money finds its way to me.”
Sending you love,
