Fighting for My Limitations

My dear friend called me last week. I was struggling with a decision around a quirky loan.  I was sharing my “doubts” with my friend about signing this document, which terms seemed to change with every conversation I had with the lender. My friend said “you can pay this back easily, Bonnie,” which wasn’t really a part of the issue, but soon became a part of the conversation. “Bonnie, you got this one, it’s easy for you.” I could hear her certainty. “No it isn’t, let me tell you why….” I rebutted as I listed a whole host of reasons as to why I was going to fail. She shared a story with me of when she was in a similar situation and won.  “This is how I looked at it prior to the decision and since then…” “Yes, but I’m not you and this is how we are different …..” another list of limitations came spewing out of my mouth. After ten minutes I felt so bad inside...

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